Giant raisins in the Loire

Giggling and eating les raisins secs géants by the handful, we dialed her number. Curious if we'd correctly remembered the U.S. country code, we waited to see if the phone would ring and Claire would answer. She did, and in a blubbery, drunken voice, Tom said, "Mom, help us solve an argument: what did King Wenceslas look down upon?" "The Feast of Stephen. Why? Where are you?" she replied with good humor.

"What a sport," I thought, while cursing under my breath because her answer meant Tom was right.

We were staying in the guest house of a vineyard deep in France's Loire Valley. Amsterdam was our home that summer, and we took as many European excursions as we could, knowing that such an opportunity might not come around again. Newlyweds, every jaunt seemed the height of romantic spontaneity, even if we were swindled here or stuck in a dingy train station there.

Our week in the Loire involved no such challenge because it is beautiful and great wine and crottins of fresh goat cheese are everywhere. Going there was my idea, a way to satisfy my dream of drinking Sancerre every day while at the same time exposing Tom to a place he'd never been nor expressed much interest in. "The French?" he'd sniffed, unknowingly. "Aren't they rude?"

"Bah," I said, "Just wait until you try the cheese, drink their wine, live there for a brief bit."

Before our trip to the Loire (and Normandy), I teased him with a long weekend in Paris. From the first crêpe au Nutella et à la banane, bought from a street vendor on the banks of the Seine, he was hooked. We traversed Paris by the mile, a walk of epic proportion punctuated by breakfasts of warm croissants and coffee, picnic lunches in lush parks and boozy dinners at wine bars and neighborhood haunts.

After Paris, it wasn't hard to convince Tom of the need to return to France. This time, once arriving at Gare du Nord direct from Amsterdam's Centraal Station, we rented a car and headed south toward Sancerre, embarking on a circular path that would let us experience the Loire Valley and some of Normandy before landing back in Paris and heading home.

We'd wanted to stay on vineyard grounds if possible, and at that time, the "agriturismo" movement was hot. It was somewhere near Vouvray, which sits near the Loire River and almost to Tours if you've left Bourges roughly two hours back, that we checked in to the chambre d'hote from which the infamous King Wenceslas call was made.

As an aside, I should tell you that when traveling, Tom and I like to stay casual. We have, for the past eleven years, prided ourselves on: finding and frequenting the best markets and grocery stores wherever we are because we prefer to rent apartments or rooms rather than hotels and then eat breakfast at "home" and/or lunch via picnic; eating at a restaurant's bar (versus a table) whenever possible, especially for dinner; learning the word for "sale" in a multitude of languages -sconto in Italy, solde in France, etc; and adhering to the "See it or so be it" mantra we coined in Vienna. We did not like Vienna at all and became bored with trying to find reasons to love it. Hence, see it or so be it.

Anyway, we had, on the outskirts of Bourges, stopped at a Carrefour which we'd decided was our preferred French grocery. You can't always go to fresh markets, you know? There, our eyes, palates and stomachs had thrilled at the bags of giant raisins - les raisins secs géants- primarily because of their sheer size. Literally giant. It was on those that we were snacking when we drunkenly called Tom's mom.

Why on earth were we talking about King Wenceslas? Because we were planning a trip to Prague, Budapest and Vienna (the very trip during which we came up with "See it or so be it.") and got to talking about Wenceslas Square in Prague, named after Saint Wenceslas who's the patron saint of Bohemia, probably because Wenceslaus 1 was the Duke of Bohemia before being assassinated. Anyway, long, circular story, but whilst talking about Wen Square, Tom started singing the carol, Good King Wenceslas, and I disputed the then-ridiculous-sounding line telling us that he looked down on the Feast of Stephen.

And that is why we called Tom's mom while drunk and eating giant raisins and talking randomly about Wenceslas while in a guest house in the middle of Val de la Loire.

To be continued.

Nelson's Donuts

In the middle of a nondescript block of East McNeese Street in Lake Charles, LA, stands Nelson's Donuts. Nelson's is an institution. During my childhood, Tastee Donuts and Nelson's were the spots we frequented most; Tastee was good and its location was more convenient, but it never touched Nelson's. And while Tastee shuttered its drive-thru many years ago, Nelson's continues to thrive. www.em-i-lis.com

The sign is new, a slight update to the one I grew up looking out for as Mom, or later friends and I, drove towards the brick-red-roofed building. Gal pals and I spent many a post-slumber party morning tricking our fatigue with the sugar rush of a warm, freshly glazed dozen. Elia, Mom and I often went for an early weekend breakfast, and now, the boys insist that a trip to Nelson's be one of our first activities upon arriving in Lake Charles.

Nelson's is open seven days a week, from 5am to noon. As Tom and Jack were immersed in a spirited game of Chinese Checkers, Ol and I made the Nelson's run this morning. We arrived at 7:45, and, per the usual at that time, the drive-thru line snaked into the street (drivers not headed to Nelson's go around without complaint). We took the last lot spot, and Ol flew to the window, eager to place our order.

The smell of hot grease, yeasted dough and sugary glaze envelops you as you approach the counter. Even if you swear you're not hungry, you will find yourself ordering a donut or two for yourself and later regretting that you didn't get more. I made that rookie mistake this morning and have rued it ever since.

Jack had requested two strawberry-filleds, one cinnamon twist, some donut holes and a chocolate-glazed. Ol chose a chocolate-glazed bedecked with sprinkles, donut holes, a cinnamon twist and an eclair. We got a French Market (like a beignet) too, just because. Ol sucked down his cinnamon twist before we reached home, and I poached a bite of J's strawberry-filled and Tom's chocolate-glazed.

www.em-i-lis.com

www.em-i-lis.com

I have eaten many a donut all over America, including those from vaunted spots like Voodoo Doughnuts in Portland and Dough in Brooklyn. Those from Dough were magnificent, and yes, a Krispy Kreme is good when a fix must be sated. But there's something perfect about donuts from Nelson's. They don't try to be anything but delicious, consistently so, and they are. Nothing fancy, nothing silly, no soupçon or drizzle of anything you really didn't want anyway. They're just wonderful, and we're already looking forward to a big, messy, sugary box next time we're here.

Holiday travel includes... a pat-down?

Tom woke the boys and me at 4:55 this morning. That is truly an ungodly, grotesque hour, even if you're headed to Shangri-La via private coach. We were all feeling festive though and once at security, a calm settled. A TSA agent said I'd been selected for a random hand-swab screening, and because positive role-modeling for the kids and all, I said, "Sure thing!" and flipped my palms willingly upward. He used that odd speculum-that-holds-a-round-facial-cotton tool the TSA loves for swabbing any- and everything, and wiped my hands in such a nice way that, modeling and all, I said, "Oh, boys, this is like a nice massage."

Which it was until the alarm sounded, and I was kindly told that because I'd failed and thus issued an alert, I would have to be taken back for private screening. Not to sound fancy, but because the only thing I believed to be on my hands was a filmy remnant of the new Chanel foundation I treated myself to over the weekend, I smiled with confidence and again said, "Sure." I mean really, does Chanel trade in or mimic explosives?

I think not. Though wasn't Coco a fairly awful human? Anti-semitic, a Nazi-supporter, homophobic and so forth? Anyway, I digress.

So, the boys and Tom went one way, and I went another. For a rather lengthy amount of time. All of my stuff was screened twice, the speculum wand swabbed my boots, purse, wallet, iPhone, and two women escorted me to a private, windowless room, shut the door and proceeded to describe a full pat-down and then administer one. I just kept smiling and agreeing because really, if I had anything to hide, it'd be that instead of going to meetings, I rent a room for the hour and sleep (not true, people), but my heart definitely beat a bit more quickly and I was glad to rejoin my crew.

As you might imagine, we all found a fair amount of funny in this -not least because it was 6:30am and how many moms get patted down at that time in an airport while their kids watch as much as they can, mouths agape?- but I also noodled on the experience, more seriously and to myself, for a while.

I hadn't done a darn thing wrong this morning and truly, if it wasn't the Chanel, it was airport bathroom or cab or kids or a confluence of being in public, that dusted my paws with something that set off a random alarm. Of course I want people to be aware and cautious and do their jobs, but it still all made me think.

What might have been different if I were a woman of color? A man of color? What if pat-downs, and their attendant skepticism (at best) and outright distrust (worse) were something I'd experienced before or often? Or frequently? And/or for no reason? Or not a good one.

I wonder how many of our countrymen and women feel watchful eyes glancing upon them with suspicion and feel their heart rates pick up and notice a slight bead of sweat at their brow or a nervous chuckle burble forth as a coping mechanism. I wonder what that does to someone's psyche if it happens repeatedly. If it happens in front of their children. If it happens and doesn't turn out well.

I am sometimes told that I feel things too deeply and cannot right the ills of the world. Both of those claims are probably true. But, it is my firmest conviction that ambivalence about great issues is a moral failure of sorts. One of the most serious problems our society has is constant short-term amnesia that repeatedly excuses us from actually dealing with problems at hand. If everyone cares but only for a bit, the "losers" are the ones who were victimized in the first-place, for they are the ones still dealing with the aftermath of the thing we watchers were upset about for a moment. They are the ones who've lost sons and daughters and retirement funds and farmland. They lose twice.

In the midst of this season, during which so many are celebrating a multitude of traditions, let us not only give thanks for all we have but also issue hope for more justice and fairness for all those who go without. Let us continue to think at once more specifically and more broadly, for by connecting with one or a few, we might be determined to work towards the betterment of all.